Everyone wears boring outfits sometimes

The other day, after I had posted a selfie in a Slack full of friends, one of them said that I always wore such great clothes. That’s the ultimate lie of outfit blogging right there, isn’t it? This idea that we are all 100% of the time 100% put together? That we never just wear boring shit. Let me tell …

Fat woman in a green dress with a ruffle

The pressure not to repeat your fatshion

The tyranny of the new Back in the day – and I mean the Livejournal days when Fatshionista was at its height and I spent a lot of time there scrolling through endless ootd posts because it was so new and revolutionary to have all of those fat people in one space – when I first started figuring out my …

A super fat in a black outfit topped by a pink mesh dress

Shopping at Premme makes me feel things.

Emotion When the second Beth Ditto for Evans collection launched, I was ready. I had a little bit of money I’d specifically budgeted for the international purchase, my alarm was set, and I was chatting online with other fat people who were also waiting to shop. It was weirdly electric, and even then as I sat on my couch in …

A superfat femme sitting on a stoop in a short black shirt, fishnets, and a green tshirt

When I get dressed, it’s political.

Deja vu Maybe it’s a natural part of turning 40 to look back on being 20; the days since my birthday have felt like a long series of moments full of deja vu. When Marilyn Manson released a new single, the idea that I had woken up in some weird Groundhog Day AU of 1997 struck me and I laughed …

Fuckability (Or: Three Steps To Feeling Desirable)

Over on Captain Awkward’s blog there was recently a question: #968 “How can I stop fat-shaming myself and enjoy my life?” This question specifically addressed the topic of fuckability. This is because, I think, it’s super common for that to be a great big hurdle even for people who’ve been involved in fat acceptance for a long time. Even when we …

Newsletter – You Should Sign Up!

I gave it a lot of thought before I decided to put together a newsletter. I don’t want to pester people! And I’m pretty accessible via the Twitters and the Instagrams. Heck, I’m even on Snapchat, though the learning curve on that one is taking a minute. But what I realized is that a newsletter is going to let me …

Reading: The Brotherhood of the Wheel

A few months ago, I attended Shore Leave, which is a super fun, fan-run sci-fi convention close to Baltimore, MD. (And I’ll write up my experiences there – good and bad – real soon.) While I was there, an editor from Tor mentioned a recently launched series by R.S. Belcher – the first book was called “The Brotherhood of the …

The cover of a novel, mostly red, with a distressed photo of a woman and two children, one a boy and one a girl, with some spatters of blood decorating the image

Pre-Order Dust Bath Revival Now!

It’s Dust Bath Revival pre-order time! Dust Bath Revival is my new novel and now it’s available for pre-order. I’m leading with that because pre-order sales are super important for new novelists and, honestly, I’d really appreciate it if all of you – and all of your friends – would pre-order this novel. Maybe you’re wondering why you should, though …

Writing Playlist – July 8, 2016

This week’s writing playlist is a bit of a throwback for me. Did you ever watch that show, Carnivàle? It ran on HBO for a couple of seasons between 2003 and 2005.  The story had two tracks: a traveling circus, with all its characters, and a preacher, with all of his town and congregation. The backdrop? The Dust Bowl as …